- Why don’t people listen to their intuition when it comes to relationships?
- The list of things a car must have is more important to them than their list for a relationship
- When it comes to relationships people say they know what’s best for them
- We want you to listen to your intuition
- Having this list of requirements for a relationship is what keeps most people from having one
- Find yourself in a loving relationship
Why don’t people listen to their intuition when it comes to relationships? People seem to think that they know exactly what it is they want in a relationship and they go looking for the items on their relationship list. This is no different than making up a grocery list and going up and down the aisles and taking something here and there and oh, don’t forget this over there.
Another good example would be buying a new car. You have a list of things you want your car to have; automatic transmission, leather interior, a sun roof would be nice and it has to look good and make people notice you. We think it’s interesting that people have a car longer than their relationship. Maybe the laundry list of things a car must have is more important to them than their list of relationship qualifications?
When it comes to relationships people say they know what’s best for them. We would say that if you knew what was best for you then you would already have good relationship and not be out looking for another one. When people say they know what’s best for them what they mean is what’s convenient for them. Oh, they’re with this person or that person because of the convenience at the time. The other person provided something that was lacking in their lives – maybe it was love, or financial support, or that person allowed them not to have to work or surrounded them with nice things. This was the convenience of the moment and not a true relationship.
Having this list of requirements for a relationship is what keeps most people from having one. The person must be so tall, or thin, or blonde, or athletic, or rich, or have their own business. The lists are endless and the more items on your relationship list the more you will be disappointed in the long run. We want you to listen to your intuition. It’s your intuition that knows what’s good for you and not necessarily you. What you think is good for you is based on decisions you’ve made in the past about relationships. How are those working out for you?
If you find yourself in a loving relationship then you probably didn’t have a list because someone just showed up unexpectedly when you weren’t shopping for one and they took you by surprise and the relationship unfolded from that point. Trying to force the point or the type of person you want to have a relationship with is selfish and stubborn. If you continue to follow this path of having a list you will never have a lasting relationship that provides love, companionship and last for as long as you want it to.
QUESTION: What should readers take away from this message today?
ANSWER: That you probably don’t know what’s best for you based on your past decisions.
QUESTION: Why is this information timely?
ANSWER: This information is timely because so many people allow desperation to cloud their relationship decisions.
QUESTION: How can readers best apply this information to their lives right now?
ANSWER: Start by writing down everything you want on your relationship list – look it over carefully, then throw it away.
COMMENTARY: Most people are not looking for a relationship; they are looking for a temporary provider. They are looking for someone to provide the things that are missing in their own life. The reason people don’t allow their intuition to pick their relationships is that they are afraid of what their intuition has in mind for them. When you allow your intuition to do the picking, it comes from your soul. Your soul brought you into this life so you could accomplish what was missing inside you. This is the unfinished business from previous lifetimes. So when you allow your intuition/soul to do the picking many times it’s not the easy ride you may have envisioned. Relationships get delivered to you; you don’t go out shopping for them. You go out shopping for things that bring you temporary pleasure, like food, a new car, new clothes, etc. Real relationships bring you long-term happiness by becoming more than you could have become without them in addition to pleasure. Be honest with yourself, are you really looking to have a relationship? Or, are you looking to be taken care of? The operative word here is “taken.” If you are looking to be taken care of, you are a “Taker.” If you are looking for a loving, lasting relationship you are a “Giver.” You give yourself to somebody and build a life together because you already have the things you need to live a good life…honesty, integrity, stability, self-respect and a loving heart. In a true relationship, you don’t take care of somebody else. You take care of yourself for that other person to enjoy being with you and they take care of themselves for you. That’s what makes a relationship last and what your intuition would tell you if you are listening.