- Relationships – people are either in one, or they want one
- If people are unhappy in their relationship why would they stay?
- People who are out looking for a relationship usually have a list
- Your intuition may tell you that you are better off alone
- What is it you have to offer in a relationship?
- Too many people compromise in order to have a relationship
Why do people ignore their intuition when it comes to relationships? When it comes to relationships people are either in one, or they want one. The problem is that many people in one stay too long and the other ones without a relationship are out looking for the wrong things.
If people are unhappy in their relationship why would they stay? It’s because they are comfortable with the person they know; more comfortable with someone you know than someone you don’t know. The relationships are many times practical – 2 people together combining incomes for example, sharing insurance, etc. Other times, people stay together for the children. This is a difficult one to walk away from. Some people in a bad relationship wonder who else would want me? This is a self-esteem problem and could be the reason they’re in a bad relationship. Others just fear being alone if they leave the relationship.
People who are out looking for a relationship usually have a list – it resembles a grocery list. I want some of that, I need some of that over there, I would like to have some of this and so on. Just like the items on the grocery list, the things on the relationship list are things you don’t have. This could be, I want someone who’s financially stable, someone who has a good job. These things, if they could be found, would fill in the gaps in your life.
Your intuition may tell you that you are better off alone, so stop worrying about being in a relationship. Your intuition may tell you not to compromise.
Look at your list of qualities you desire. Are they also your qualities, or are they really a needs and wants list? What is it you have to offer in a relationship? That’s what you are and what you will attract.
Too many people compromise in order to have a relationship. Compromise becomes living with your mistakes. Your intuition will never lie to you, or try to mislead you because you will always be you. In this case you didn’t really change you – you are just doing things to try to influence others to be attracted to you. It’s easier to not try and change yourself, but change the person you’re with.
QUESTION: What should readers take away from this message today?
ANSWER: That when you have a relationship list it’s like your grocery list and nothing more.
QUESTION: Why is this information timely?
ANSWER: This information is timely because people are looking for relationships of convenience and not loving relationships.
QUESTION: How can readers best apply this information to their lives right now?
ANSWER: By looking at people around you and the quality of their relationship – what is it that you admire and is it real in their relationship? Now, decide what it is that you’ll have to do to attract that kind of person.
COMMENTARY: Most people with a list of things they want in their next relationship consists of the things they lack in themselves. You see it all the time like when you hear some say they want to find someone who can take care of them. They could be in their 20’s when they start thinking and talking like this. This could be a man or a woman saying these things. These people are missing the whole reason why they are here. This is supposed to be an exciting time for each person to express themselves and try things that appeal to them. This is the excitement of living and becoming more than you ever realized until you try them. When people look for and find these people that agree to take care of them, they eventually resent each other. It doesn’t work for either person. Then one day they both find themselves older, which really means they realize they wasted their time in their fake relationship. This is when they say, “You took the best years of my life.” This is the blame and resentment game. It’s all a waste of time – it’s a lesson. So, ask yourself – are you here to have lessons, or experience exciting adventures that allow you to learn about yourself and while you are busy becoming more than you were before you got here you attract people just like you – the best of you!