What does happiness mean to you?
- Happiness is a feeling which is derived from…
- Who made you feel good?
- The conclusion you are left with is…
What does happiness mean to you? Everybody seems to want to live in an environment of happiness. Wouldn’t it be grand if everyone was always happy. What is happiness anyway?
Happiness is a feeling which is derived from your judgment and reaction to the condition of your life at any time. Let’s say you are having a bad day at work and you come home upset. You justify not being happy because you have someone to blame for your unhappiness. It could be your boss, your co-workers, or maybe the government, or a long list of others. By doing this you are stating that your happiness is dependent on someone else, or something else.
Your reaction to what’s happening is what makes you happy or not. Suppose, no matter what happened one day, you saw it as something that made you happy. To recognize the times you were authentically happy start small, maybe something just made you snicker, or laugh, or smile – that was easy wasn’t it? Who made you feel good? You did – not someone else. It was how you reacted to a situation.
Therefore, the conclusion you are left with is that only you are responsible for your happiness. So, anytime you are unhappy you have no one to blame but yourself.
QUESTION: What should readers take away from this message today?
ANSWER: That you make your own happiness.
QUESTION: Why is this information timely?
ANSWER: This information is timely because at the holidays it’s a time when you should feel happy but many feel unhappy and alone.
QUESTION: How can readers best apply this information to their lives right now?
ANSWER: If you are having the holiday blues, find other unhappy and alone people and get together with them and do something that makes you both happy.
COMMENTARY: You’ve heard people say things like, “I’m looking for someone who will make me happy.” It’s seems like a harmless statement until you hookup with someone like this. These are the three fatal words in their statement: ‘looking,’ ‘someone,’ and ‘makes.’ “Looking” for someone is not how it works, that’s manipulation – a setup. “Someone” lays the happiness burden on someone else and also the blame. “Makes” is forcing the issue. It’s like saying you’re going to make that job work, that relationship work, etc. It either works or it doesn’t. You can’t make anything work that doesn’t work. So, if you hear anyone talking like this run the other way!